Co Down Man Shares HIV Journey to Combat Stigma on World AIDS Day

A man from County Down has bravely shared his personal experience with HIV on World AIDS Day, aiming to challenge the stigma associated with the virus. Known only as Eddie, the 61-year-old business consultant was diagnosed with HIV 11 years ago following a relationship where his partner concealed their status from him.

Eddie’s journey began after the end of his marriage, during which he entered a new relationship. He later discovered that his partner was aware of their HIV status and had not disclosed it. “My world fell apart. I was in what I felt to be a trusted relationship,” Eddie expressed. He had noticed medication in an unmarked container but did not receive clear answers when he inquired about it.

Upon receiving his diagnosis at the age of 50, Eddie faced a significant decline in his health. His general practitioner recommended an HIV test, and when called in for the results, Eddie sensed something was amiss. “The GP said I was HIV positive. There was no discussion about what HIV was, just that I needed to go to the GUM clinic,” he recalled.

Eddie describes the stigma surrounding HIV in Northern Ireland as “the last taboo.” He refrained from discussing his diagnosis with anyone, including his ex-wife and children, confiding only in three close friends. His fear of judgment extended to avoiding healthcare services altogether, including dental appointments. Eddie commented, “HIV can happen to anyone. Most people think it just affects gay men. I was married with children.”

The message he wishes to convey is clear: “Anyone of any age or gender who is sexually active can get HIV.” He encourages people to get tested, seek treatment, and take advantage of the supportive resources available. “The most important message right now is to get tested, to get treatment and to access the non-judgmental support I’ve had from Positive Life as soon as possible. Then you can get on with living your life and protect others from getting HIV,” he added.

Eddie’s connection with Positive Life, Northern Ireland’s only dedicated HIV charity, has been transformative. “Had it not been for Positive Life, I wouldn’t be here to tell my story. I have finally begun to come to terms with my diagnosis, through the amazing support and therapeutic counselling interventions they’ve provided for me,” he stated.

Despite advancements in HIV treatment over the years, Eddie believes that societal attitudes in Northern Ireland have not progressed as significantly. He emphasizes the necessity of awareness, especially among younger generations.

Statistics from the Department of Health indicate there were 101 new diagnoses of HIV in Northern Ireland last year, with approximately 1,439 people currently living with the virus. Alarmingly, a recent health survey revealed that nearly one-fifth of individuals aged 16-34 have not heard of HIV, and fewer than one in three are aware that effective medication can prevent transmission of the virus.

Jacquie Richardson, chief executive of Positive Life, reinforced the importance of awareness and testing. “Our message is get tested, know your status and end HIV,” she stated.

Eddie’s courageous sharing of his story is a powerful reminder of the ongoing need to combat stigma and promote understanding about HIV, encouraging individuals to prioritize their health and well-being through education and support.