British Grandmother Uncovers Truth About Gambian Partner’s Deception

A British grandmother has revealed shocking details about her relationship with a Gambian waiter, leading her to suspect he may have been misleading her all along. Zena, 65, from Oxted, Surrey, met Ebrima, 44, during a holiday in Banjul two years ago. Initially dismissing accusations of being a sex tourist, she found herself entangled in a web of deception that has left her questioning the true nature of their relationship.

Zena’s romance with Ebrima flourished despite significant cultural differences, particularly regarding religion and lifestyle. She noted his disapproval of her alcohol consumption and attire, yet she showered him with gifts, including an iPhone, and provided financial support. Despite the 21-year age gap, Zena felt comfortable, stating she preferred younger men, whom she described as “not bald with big guts.”

The couple gained attention on the reality show 90 Day Fiance UK, where Zena expressed her attraction to Ebrima, highlighting his physical fitness. She faced criticism online, with many questioning her motives. Some commenters labeled her a “visa vagina” or accused her of being a sex tourist. In response, Zena firmly stated, “If I wanted [to have] sex in England, I would, even at my age.”

As their relationship developed, Zena uncovered inconsistencies in Ebrima’s story. He had claimed not to have any social media accounts, but her family discovered he was active on Facebook, with numerous female contacts. Alarm bells rang when Zena overheard her son refer to Ebrima’s alleged sister as “dad,” raising suspicions about the true nature of their relationship.

Ebrima, who also appeared on the show, expressed a desire to move to England, citing low wages in Gambia. “The income is very low so it is dependent on tips,” he explained, adding that English tourists are often more generous with gratuities.

The turning point for Zena came when her granddaughter, Tillie, found Ebrima’s Facebook profile. “What a cheek. I’m furious really. He said he never had one,” Zena remarked, expressing her intention to confront him upon her return to Gambia. “I feel sick; he’s totally deceived me.”

Upon her arrival, the show captured Ebrima’s continued insistence that his Facebook account had been deleted. When confronted with the evidence, he claimed, “It was a joke; I like joking.” Zena was not amused, stating, “I don’t really think it’s that funny. I’m not going to waste all my time getting over here, buying you things and then, lo and behold, you’re playing me.”

Tensions escalated in subsequent episodes as Zena questioned Ebrima’s fidelity, expressing concern about his behavior while they were apart. “You’re miles away here in the Gambia. You could be doing whatever you wanted, couldn’t you?” she asked. Ebrima firmly denied any infidelity, reinforcing his claim that his sister was not his wife.

As the show reached its conclusion, Zena decided to give Ebrima “the benefit of the doubt,” and they both agreed to continue their relationship, though the trust issues remain. The unfolding story highlights the complexities of cross-cultural relationships and the challenges that can arise from differing expectations and communication styles.