How a Dog Helped Heal a Family After Divorce

A new dog has become a source of healing for a family navigating the aftermath of a divorce. In January 2019, Naomi Koji-Paton faced the daunting challenge of raising her daughter, Lucy, while dealing with the emotional toll of ending her 27-year marriage. Initially, she resisted Lucy’s requests for a dog, feeling overwhelmed after a series of personal setbacks, including the death of their previous dog, Fenrir.

Naomi described her emotional state during this period as one of grief and uncertainty. “I was barely keeping my head above water,” she recalled, reflecting on the toll that multiple hardships had taken on her life. The combination of losing a beloved pet, suffering health issues, and dealing with the impending divorce left her feeling hollowed out. Despite her apprehension, Lucy consistently expressed her desire for a Border Collie, her favorite breed.

As time passed, Naomi began to recognize the significance of her daughter’s wish. Lucy was also grappling with the changes in their family dynamic, which made the idea of a dog seem more appealing. Naomi understood that a pet could provide Lucy with a sense of stability amidst the chaos. “I realized her need was not simply about wanting a pet. It was about trying to find a place for her love to land,” Naomi noted.

Finding Skye: A New Beginning

After months of contemplation, Naomi decided to explore the possibility of adding a new member to their household. One day, she surprised Lucy with the news of a Border Collie puppy available from a breeder. Lucy’s reaction was one of pure joy, lighting up Naomi’s world momentarily. They visited the breeder in Dorking, where they were greeted by a litter of playful puppies.

To their delight, they were offered the chance to adopt any of the puppies. Naomi realized that this opportunity could provide a new foundation for their family. Thus began their life with Skye, a puppy that would soon become integral to their healing process.

Training Skye presented challenges, particularly for Lucy, who at just 12 years old had to learn responsibility in a profound way. Naomi emphasized that this experience was not just about love but about commitment, consistency, and the importance of boundaries. “Skye helped her learn that love is not just affection. It is duty, consistency, and presence,” Naomi explained.

The Transformative Power of Pets

As they settled into a routine, the bond between Lucy and Skye grew stronger. Their walks together became a source of connection and stability, transforming their home into a sanctuary of comfort. Naomi found solace in Skye’s presence, appreciating how the dog did not demand questions or explanations but provided companionship and support.

Naomi, who has 20 years of experience as a divorce and breakup coach, emphasizes the impact of pets on emotional well-being. “Supporting a child as they learn to care for another living being can be one of the most profound ways to rebuild their confidence,” she advised. With Skye by their side, both mother and daughter navigated the complexities of their new life, finding strength and resilience in their shared responsibility.

Reflecting on their journey, Naomi considers acquiring Skye one of the best decisions she has ever made. “Skye did not fix what was broken or bring back what was lost,” she said. “She brought a steady constancy that anchored us.”

Naomi’s story underscores the emotional benefits of pet ownership, especially during difficult times. For families facing similar circumstances, she offers a word of caution: while a pet can be a source of joy and healing, it also requires a significant commitment. “If you can find a small space in the mess for something else to grow, you may find that what grows is strength, resilience, and a new kind of connection,” she concluded.

As their story illustrates, sometimes the best therapy can come from an unexpected source—a loving pet with a wagging tail.